“Comparison is the thief of joy” – Theodore Roosevelt
When I first started this blog, I planned on it being just as much of a fashion and beauty blog as a personal one. I planned on tackling personal topics, and connecting with my readers on a level a bit deeper than just agreeing on the same foundation formulation. Looking back at my archives, I was disappointed to realize that I haven’t tackled too many personal issues on my blog up to this point. Last fall I did talk a bit about the funk I was in, (you can read that post HERE) but I decided I wanted to be able to open up to my readers a bit more often.
Today’s topic: Body Image/Confidence
Summer is upon us, and I know that body image is at the forefront of a lot of people’s minds. Thoughts regarding body image are by no means exclusive to summer, but something about bikini season tends to highlight insecurities. Well, it does for me at least.
My body image is something I’ve struggled with all my life, and therefore something I continually work to improve. As a child, I was never the skinniest girl in class, and I definitely noticed. I started closely relating my self worth with my appearance, and my relationship with food quickly became defined by guilt.
As I got older, I realized my biggest enemy in the fight toward a positive body image was myself, and my constant internal monologue which was peppered with comparisons of me to everyone else. “My hips are bigger than hers, oh but my waist is smaller. She looks like she may weigh more and she’s wearing that sort of top, I guess I could get away with it then…?”
For awhile, I couldn’t meet anyone without analyzing their appearance and using it as a measuring stick against my own. I was aware of the dangerous cycle I was in, but I wasn’t sure how to stop it. And let’s face it, in a society where we use appearance to sell everything from food and drink products to clothing and magazine subscriptions, it’s a hard cycle to break. So, how am I breaking it?
4 Tips to a More Body Confident You:
Body confidence definitely doesn’t happen over night, but it’s something I am working very, very hard on. I want to enjoy life outside the confines of my insecurities and negative thoughts. It can be difficult at times because I think a lot of people assume that I don’t have any reason to be self conscious or negative about my body. I also think that as a blogger people assume I have all the confidence in the world. False on both accounts.
Minutes before these bikini pictures were taken I wanted to back out. I had just eaten, I thought I looked bloated, what would people on the beach think, no way I was using these in a post…but Ted convinced me to do it. And I’m proud I did. I love myself, and I love my body, and I want these pictures to inspire you to do the same. I want everyone to recognize that they are beautiful.
You are unique, there is only one you, and I want you to live your life proud of that, not consumed with a desire to look and be someone else. So please, embrace yourself, love your body, and carry yourself through this life fiercely, and confidently.